I was involved in a similar situation as divorce, only my parents never married. My mom and dad were together for 16 to 18 years. After all those years, they decided to not be together anymore. This lead to my brother and I being hurt the most because at that time, my sister was too young to understand.

However, once they were completely separated, my mom became a brand new woman who no one could stand. She began to look and think of all the men the same, such as thinking that they are all liars and cheaters. She even started to tell my brother that he better not end up like his daddy. We all knew that she was very hurt; we could see it as she yelled at us and made us do things we normally wouldn’t do. She even changed all the rules in the house. Anything that had to do with dad no longer stood.

It was hurting me so bad to the point that I didn’t want to be in the same house as my mom any more. We weren’t allowed to speak to or of our father. Even if we were out and about, we couldn’t even say anything o him or look his way. I began to go crazy because things were just going too far.

I made myself believe that this was the worst it could get, but I was wrong. People began to tell me things that my father was supposed to be saying about my mom and the family such as he didn’t want anything to do us no more and that he didn’t love us and never did. Once I heard things like this, I began to do what my mom did: remove my father from my life like I never knew him.

After my mom and the family were hurt by this, I didn’t like my mom to talk to any guys or try to build a relationship with them. This was very hard to deal with for awhile. I had to keep my head high and strong for the family so we didn’t break down because we still had each other. Most of all, after things started to clam down, I was able to get my family to sit down and talk things over so we could figure things out. Once things were off our chest, everything became better quicker then I thought. Now my mom and dad are best friends.

If I was to give advice to someone in this situation, I would tell them that the key to it all is just being strong and doing what is best for you and your family. Make sure you have someone by your side to keep you standing, and you have to make sure that you keep your head up high.